When you hear the word romantic film, what is the first impression that comes to your mind? Surely not far from the problem of couples, love-love, and hugs, kisses, and affection, right? Surely you have also imagined a romantic scene raining happily between two lovers, looking at each other’s souls.

Yes, I also feel the same every time I hear the word romantic film. It feels too much, it can’t happen in the real world and it makes me feel a little ill-feeling with romantic films. I just don’t like it, the story is just like that, it’s weightless and you can already guess how the ending will be.

But after seeing the film About Time, made by Richard Curtis and starring Domhnall Gleeson, Rachel McAdams, and Bill Nighy, the definition of romance that I have been holding on to has changed to a much broader, deeper, and more meaningful definition. Don’t believe it?

Giving a Different Definition of Romanticism
So far, I have always thought that romance is just a matter of love between two lovebirds who love each other. How could I not, since I was a child, I have been treated to high-level romantic romance films such as Romeo & Juliet, Titanic, Pretty Woman to The Notebook. The plot is also very standard, just like a quote from the film Don Jon:

“The pretty woman, the pretty man, the first kiss, the break up, the make up, they drive off into the sunset.

Not to mention the many romantic scenes that rarely exist in the real world, such as hugs in the rain, romantic encounters in the middle of the road, and other things that don’t make sense. Anyway, romantic films are already identical to love dramas that are too much .

But you don’t find that in the About Time movie. The romance shown is not exaggerating at all, but looks much wider, deeper, and really makes the audience feel the true meaning of love.

Unlike romantic drama films, which in my opinion dramatize a relationship too much, About Time explores the simpler side of romance, but it is more intimate and much deeper so that the audience can feel it.

The plot to find true love is often used in many romantic dramas, starting from love at first sight to ending in a happy ending that implies happily ever after. This is something that really doesn’t happen in the real world.

But in this film, we see Tim’s character who has to struggle to find his true love. Starting from the first rejection, the timing is not right, to the disappointment when his true love already has another partner. Very likely to happen in the real world is not it?

And once Tim finds his true love — Mary — he doesn’t necessarily mix love with overly romantic and over-the-top drama. The team started with a dinner, a long walk through town laughing, kissing and making love very tenderly for the first time.

This is what I call deeper romance, because it feels much more intimate, simpler, more detailed and realistically imaginable. In effect, the romance shown looks so sweet, just right, and not excessive at all.

Showing Another Side of Romanticism
The definition of romanticism that is already attached to the love story of two lovebirds often closes other definitions of love, one of which is the romance of love with family members. It could be a love story between a parent and a child, or a sibling with another sibling.

About Time is actually not focused on the romance between Tim and Mary, but also between Tim and his family. In this film we are shown an ideal relationship that is very harmonious between Tim and his father, played brilliantly by Bill Nighy.

By Kania